A few days ago a good friend of mine stated that she’d just finally joined FB. After congratulating her, I asked why she’d resisted for so long. She stated that she believed (and still does) that FB takes people away from ‘real’ face-to-face relationships and online relationships were a poor substitute.
Now, if I’d been a cat, my whiskers and tail would have twitched with irritation at her comment. While I’m still very fond of my ‘face to face’ friend, I pointed out that God blesses us with many kinds of relationships to fill different needs and for us to fill those needs in others. She graciously conceded that I was right.
However I started to ponder both the benefits and the drawbacks of my FB relationships.
It is no secret that FB offers instant contact with regards to family, friends (old and new), colleagues, possible dates etc. But the advantages of keeping in touch FREE with friends and family who are travelling and wanting to send pictures is one of my personal favorites. Then add on that you can contact them when and how you like, as it may be in the middle of the night for many of my wayward friends when I’m awake and wondering how they’re doing. Promoting yourself or your business is of course another of my favs. It’s like putting little flyers on doorsteps without having to walk a step. How great is that?
And who doesn’t like the visual aspect of FB? Those videos are positively addicting, and the little pictures that give you a giggle to start your day can’t be beat!
Then there is the benefit of having advice from hundreds of people from all walks of life and cultures. And right at my fingertips!
I’m still a little country girl gaping at the possibilities, but still a bit fearful of stepping into the ‘unknown’ without a valid roadmap. (Which keeps changing, I might add)
Now, I must consider the cons of FB. Because to be totally honest, I can truly lose track of time while online with my ‘tweeps’. I’m a visually oriented person, so the vast array of delightful pictures and You Tube videos can suck me in. And the instant contact with my friends entices me no end! I’m often tempted to run and see what was up on FB before I sit and consult my daily devotionals, or to chat with my off-line friends.
Then there is the privacy aspect of it. How many times have I heard about people being hacked, or being dragged through the mud by having something publicized that they may have said while they were young and impulsive? A few of my friends have actually backed out of FB as it is commonly used as a tool for future employers to find out what a person is really like. That’s appalling to me!
But as I look at my list of pros and cons, personally, FB is so worthwhile to me. But I do have to be disciplined with how and when I use it.
So I salute my FB buddies and groups. I can’t think of going through life without you all now, so you’re kind of stuck with me. (Oh, wait, I can be ‘unfriended too! ☹)
This is my post, in recognition of my one-year anniversary of being a Scriblerian. I have enjoyed my new buddies immensely, and how we have become a close-nit group of like-minds.
So I ask you…
1) How do you feel about Facebooking? Does it pull you away from other relationships?